How you birth your baby is something that you will never forget - it's not just the birth of a baby, but the birth of a mother, (a father, a family). I see the process as a journey into your new role in life - and how that jurney goes will have an enormous impact on your emotional, and mental state in the days, weeks, even years to follow. This is why I feel so passionately about the job I do - teaching Pregnancy Yoga and Hypno for Birth classes.
Each story and each family is so unique and I am constantly learning and adjusting how and what I teach to improve and get it better for the next woman and her family.
Your personal story starts way before the birth, with the choices you make in the weeks leading up to birth, how you feel about your caregivers, and the signs you get from your body and baby. I love to hear about the very earliest stages of labour, the twinges, and how you and your partner react, what coping strategies you use and what midwives may advise you to do will all shape the experience.
There is no right or wrong way to birth - only that when a woman feels empowered, respected and listened to - she will feel the birth was a positive experience. Drugs and medicine are always an option - there is no badge of honour for not using the resources on hand - no-one can judge how you will feel except you - at the time, and in the moment.
Writing down a detailed story of how events unfolded, and the bits that mattered to you can be an extremely cathartic process. You might remember mre details at a later date, but your story is something you will always be able to come back to - perhaps to share with your children, and even grandchildren (I love my Gran's birth stories the best!)
If your birth wasn't a positive one or you are feeling traumatised then writing everything down is the first step in accepting, processing what happened and then finding some healing. It won't make it go away, and may not even shift any of the negative emotions but I firmly beleive that no matter how hard it is, it's first step - do not 'try to forget' it is an important event in your life, and you will carry it around for the rest of your life so you owe it to yourself and your baby to deal with it.
I am here for you.
I can listen, and have lots of contact for an array of fantastic therapists who can help you when the time is right.
So if you do decide to write your birth story I would be so honoured to be able to read it, I'd love to hear about how the yoga positions, breathing and relaxation techniques you tried and whether they worked, or didn't - about how your partner supported you, whether you used the accupressure or massage I taught and how it helped, or not!
As a thank you if you do write & share your story, I'll give you a half price voucher for your first postntal / baby yoga course (wheter you are ready for me to publish online or not)
Any questions just let me know